what drives attraction?

after readinmg extensiovely an array of books on gendered design and desire withing products ive started realizing that its society that depicts our attrtaction not ouir natural abuility to determine what we like. influenced by everything and anyone we strive to admire what we know we should, what has admired beofre and what leads admiration. from post war obsession with cleanliness when women were forced into OCD of cleaning and making sure their 'boys' grew up strong for way, came the ntural attraction of products designed minimal, no wonder we all like Dieter Rams work, it embellished all of the key things we longed for back then. less detail less crevices for dirt to gather, smoother surfaces, easier to wipe down and the pureness of white is only seen as pure as dirt is seen as off white. and why is that, thats because of womens driven obsession with bleach. and why do women strive for clean smells, what started the whole fascination with nice smells anyway? stigma form back in the days when men overpowered womens intellect. girls have since the dawn of time been depicted as softer, gentlre, delicate specimens of human life, we used to be good for being observed, not for observing ourselves, and to be honrest thats no ones fault but our own. we were far too quick to pick up the sewing and watch the soaps, another tact insticated to take women abck out of the workforce after the wars. it seems that every chance to make men appear more dominant has been taken with both hands. not that im sexist of feel badly done to in any respect, i certainly dont hold a grudge against men today for the fact that althought my grandma heklped build planes while my grandfather was working as a cook on submarines in the war, she was the one who had to hand over that taste of independance when he came home. in fact it just makes me curious why. i mean what is the risk of women losing their roles of femininity, why have men tried to oppose that? why do we still today encourgae genderistaion with opur children? i did a project for the early learnig centre and was surpruised to find that topys coloured neutrtally didnt sell. i automatically presumed that the modern day parent would strive to remove differentiatiion between classes. i was so wrong. apparently pink and blue is the way to go and it has always been this way. even when girls were gagging for some more 'angry' toys, and she ra was desgined (he-mans woen) she only sold once they made her pnats pink. insanity or just genetics? its not hard to comprehend that we only buy what we buy because we know that to be the right thing to do, and how do we know that? through previous experience, knowledge, and where do we get that from? our parents, TV, no surprise in gender typing form commercials, theyre only in it to sell. why do we keep on buying it? is there anything wrong with it anyhow? where does it elad? is it whata ccounts for seuasl preference when older? i dont in anyway mean that boys who played with dolls are going to be gay, but i mean does the reaction to having this gendertyping forced on us at a young age make us react, each reatcing to their own way. i hated barbie, not because i knew what she stood for or because of her form, i just found her boring. she stated what she was, the fact she in no way portrayed my mother might have been a gfactor, or the fact i loved playing outdoors, footbalk and my little pony could also have been factors. i was never a girly child and hated all the usual girl stuff, it made me slightl repulse to be honest, how fucking scary the cabbage patch dolls where, i had one doll, called sarah, she had a hard head which i could grab easier to carry and a soft body which i could squeeze for comfort. looking back ive always functioned through function. so was i not attracted to these toys through my lack of stereotype taste in appearance?